Feeling Like One In The Crowd? Little Ways To Become More Sociable

Being on the road to a better you is all about stepping outside of your comfort zone. Sometimes we can find ourselves barricaded in our homes. In one respect, we don’t have the opportunity to get out and see people much, due to our lifestyles or even our careers. Being sociable is an impossible task. We get used to our own company, and therefore, getting outside into the big, wide world is hard work. So how do we set aside comfort and force ourselves to become more sociable without it having a devastating impact on our frame of mind?

Start Small 

One of the simplest ways to get out there is not to put the pressure on yourself. Starting small is is about finding something that’s just beyond your comfort zone. It’s important that we reinforce this idea of what actually is outside of our comfort zone, because this is such a subjective term. One person might not feel so comfortable in a big crowd, but someone else may be okay with it just as long as you don’t have to interact as much with others. The perfect opportunity is to go to some public event. That way, it gives you the chance to get out, be among people, but also, get some enjoyment while you’re at it! If you want to go to the movies, do that. But if you want to go somewhere a bit further out, try the Entertainment Abounds All September at Borgata hotel. It’s a great way to see what is out there. And with a public event in a medium-sized venue, you got that opportunity to experience crowds, but not in an overwhelming sense.

Give Yourself Two Difficult Options

It’s all about the lesser of evils. While you need to escape your comfort zone, if you give yourself the option of staying in or going out, you will, naturally, stay in. But if you give yourself the option to go to a stadium event or visit a friend at a coffee house, you are still getting yourself outside, and being sociable, but you are in control of the outcome. You do this and you can start to challenge yourself even more. But the key to doing this is about the two options. They need to be social. As time goes on, you can give yourself more challenging opportunities. It’s not about conflicting ideas. It’s always about pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. They don’t have to be difficult, per se. But as long as you give yourself an opportunity to be sociable, whatever the outcome, you are going in the right direction.

Go For The Big Guns When You Are Ready

If you’re ready to tackle a big event, do so. But remember you are in control. Sometimes you need to push yourself a little bit out of your comfort zone but give yourself the opportunity to rest and recover. Being sociable can be exhausting. It all depends on the people you socialize with, but also, the magnitude of the event. Some people feel uncomfortable at parties or could feel right at home because they have a sense of anonymity and go for strangers to talk to. Give yourself a break when you do these things because they are exhausting, and give yourself the opportunity to recover. A lot of people use social crutches, like alcohol, and remember, if you feel that you are out of your depth, this is a good thing, even though it doesn’t feel like it. After going out of your comfort zone, you’ve got to allow yourself that opportunity to recover. Emotionally, these things are very taxing, and if you’re not used to being sociable, as tempting as it is to do little steps in the right direction, sometimes we can feel ready for the big events. And much like someone who has just learned how to walk again, they need to rest up and give themselves a pat on the back. 

Being sociable is not easy for everyone. And if you’re one of those people that suffer from anxiety when you’re out in the open, forcing yourself to become more sociable is easier said than done. As such, it’s about having control over the situation. You can find yourself out of your depth, but to be more sociable, you have to escape your comfort zone. It’s about treading that balance. Do it too much and it can have an adverse effect. But as long as you start to push yourself out of your comfort zone ever so slightly, this is when you develop resilience and desensitize yourself to those sensations. 

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