Help, That Wasn’t Suppose To Happen!

What can you do if you find your life suddenly crumbling around your ears? If you are in the midst of an unexpected catastrophe? If everything seems to be going wrong? Well, all is not lost, as sometimes there are the things you can do to improve the situation. These can be things like dealing with specific issues that arise, as well as focusing on self-improvement to help you cope better the stress and strain. So if you are finding yourself in this position or you want to be prepared in case the worse doe happen, read on? As below you will find a brief rundown of some of the things you can do that will hopefully help you to survive.

Practical advice for illnesses

One of the things that we rarely ever seem coming is illnesses. Getting ill can be pretty unpleasant. Even if it’s something that is over in a week or so, and you are able to easily get medication for it.

Obviously, if the illness is more long term and life threatening, or you have issues gaining access to treatment, it can be a real catastrophe. But what can you do when the worst happens, and the doctor give you bad news?

Well, first of all, you need to get as much information on your prognosis as possible. Ask your doctor questions if you don’t understand anything. Ask for a second opinion of you are unsure about anything that they are saying.

Also, go online and research organizations that deal with the problem that you are going through. Compare their advice to your medical teams to make sure that it’s correct and helpful.

You can also turn your focus inwards and look at your life to see whether there are any improvements you could make that would benefit your health? This may be something as simple as exercising more regularly or changing your diet, to something more major like moving in with loved one that can physically care for you, if things become too much.

It’s also critical to remember that you need to deal with the financial issue of illness, and not bury your head in the sand. That means you must check to see what your insurance covers and what it does not. As well as what sick leave and benefits you are entitled to.

Remember you don’t want to have to deal with the financial stress of being ill, along with all of the physical and emotional strain you are going through. It is in this way, you will give yourself the best fighting chance to overcome or manage your illness.

Practical advice for losing your job

Losing a job isn’t fun. Whether you are made redundant, or you get sacked, it can seriously affect your mental health and your financial situation. But contrary to popular belief the loss of a job isn’t the end of your life.

Instead, you have to be proactive and get out there, applying for other things. Also it can help to get some additional training in areas that are causing you problems. Whether that is in interpersonal relations or particular skills related to your role.

Then when you go for an interview, you can show how you are actively working on your problem. Something that will make you a lot more attractive to potential employers.

It’s also crucial to note that not everyone that loses their job is dismissed fairly. If you suspect this is relevant in your case, it can be useful to speak to a legal professional to see whether you have been unfairly dismissed. This is something that is illegal so you can be awarded compensation if the ruling comes out in your favor.

Practical advice for being a victim of crime

Tragically there are many folks out there than end up being a victim of crime unexpectedly. Many of these are people that have money, or possessions stolen from them in burglaries, robberies, or fraud.

This can be a very traumatic experience and can have a significant effect on the individual that is involved.

For instance, if you have possessions stolen like a laptop, and you have not insured it, you not only have to deal with the violation of the robber. But also have to find the money for a new item, or learn to live without it.

Obviously, there are two distinct issues here. One is the financial issue, and the other is the psychological issue.

To help financially, you can reach out and get help for victims of crime from a number of organizations. This may include advice on how to stop you bank accounts, how to keep personal details confidential, or even tracking services for items that have been stolen.

For the psychological issues that being a victim of a crime entails, then it’s best to see if there are any victim support units available in your area. If not then you can also speak to other charities which can help you work through your issues, and heal the psychological wounds that the experience had caused.

Practical advice for when a relationship breaks down

One of the most unpleasant unexpected things to have to deal with in life is when a relationship with a friend or loved one breaks down. It could be that you are your other half has decided to part ways, that your kids aren’t speaking to you, or you best friend has turned into a frenemy?

But what can be done to help you cope in such an emotionally charged situation? Well, if you share assets and living space it can be useful to employ an objective third party. Someone like a lawyer to come in and help you sort things out.

Of course, it’s is really the emotional pain and suffering that is the most problematic in this case, and unfortunately, much of it needs to be gone through to get to a place of peace. To help you with this you could seek counsel from a spiritual advisor, or use some self-help techniques such as CBT and meditation.

Practical advice for when you have new family member

Quite the opposite to having a family relationship breakdown is when a new member other family come along. But it can still be pretty stressful, especially if it wasn’t expected.

It could be that you have a new baby, and have to deal with all of the hormonal changes, sleepless nights, and money worries that that brings. Or, it could be that an aging relative is no longer able to take care of themselves and has to move in with you for their own wellbeing. It could even be the introduction of a step-parent or sibling into the family dynamic that is causing the issue. As that can be stressful for all parties concerned too.

Now, what is the best way to deal with this? Well, the first thing is to be kind to yourself. “Shoulds,” aren’t helpful here. So avoid saying I should be happy about this, I should be nicer, I should be better. In fact, you are as entitled to your emotional reaction as anyone else is.

Of course, you don’t have to direct it at the new person in the family. So you need to find a way of experiencing what you are feeling, but that also allows you to move forward to a more connected place.

To get to this point, it may be useful to enter into relationship counseling. As this will give you a chance to air your concerns, and also learn to listen to the other person’s side of the argument too.

Although, some of these conflicts can be caused by the feeling of being overwhelmed with caring for the need of another person. If this is the case then it’s important to reach out to other family members, and services that can help lighten your burden and make the situation better for everyone involved.

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